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I'm such a killjoy, right? by Rebi-Valeska I'm such a killjoy, right? by Rebi-Valeska
I don't receive these "benefits" and "truths" of pornography:

"Porn is fun to watch with your partner and it gives you ideas for sex."
Not to me. I don't want to watch some other girl having sex with someone she probably doesn't even know. I don't even find that even romantic in the slightest. If my boyfriend wanted to watch porn with me, I'd take offense to it because it makes me feel like either I'm getting boring because I don't do what those girls do, or I'm no good at foreplay because he has to rely on porn turn him on. I'm not being selfish, because I know I would do my best to get the best advice for how to treat my boy in bed in a more comfortable way.

"Porn helps people release sexual urges."
I don't care if people masturbate to porn. Unless I'm planning on dating them. Why? Because I don't want him to think that what he sees on porn-movies is what's going to happen in reality. What's more, I've had ex-boyfriends who watched porn and because of that they were more visually stimulated, so they had asked me to send them naked pictures of myself so they have something to jack-off to. I never should have, because it scarred me for LIFE. 

"Porn is art in motion"
I don't see anything artistic about seeing someone stick something in someone's holes. ANYONE can do that. But wait, I already hear people saying "but people DRAW porn, isn't that artistic"? You actually think that the content an artist draws should be labeled as artistic simply because it's drawn? Then we should make murder an artistic thing, since people love to draw that? That sort of logic holds no water for me.

"Porn doesn't harm anyone"
Yes it can, unless you happen to find someone who is into that sort of thing. It's hurts trust and excessive engagement may even hurt people psychologically. Hell, there is a minority of girls/guys who partake into the actual porn production that may experience some trauma of some sort. If there is no mutual and trusting consent, then watching porn will affect your relationships with your girlfriend, your wife and kids, your future lovers, your job, your money, your computer, etc. It can even affect your health: porn has the influence to lead many people into severe sexual addiction per year. It can also rewire your brain to only be stimulated by certain things that common people may not regularly do in intimate settings: therefore restricting the value and variety of intimacy with your spouse/lover. Also, what about the people who used to be in the porn industry/ watched porn but regret it to this day? They may have to live with that feeling of regret for the rest of their lives and they cannot remove the damage such as loosing their day job or the respect of their spouses/family/etc. 
Yes, people CAN watch porn and be bothered by it. It's NOT strange at all since people do not always share the same comfort zones and values about their urges.


I'll tell you what the usage of porn has done for me:
It was the main cause for my step-father to cheat on my mother with a girl MY age & later their seperation. 
It was the main cause for my trust issues with ex-boyfriends. One of them prefered to go to a strip-club than spend time with me.
It made ME feel insecure about my own abilities to please my future love
It has caused me only temporary pleasure and fame, and a life-time amount of guilt
It made me feel used and even guilty whenever I was asked for things I was uncomfortable to give.
It has caused me to have relationship commitment issues.

TLDR: Why do I feel so insecure about porn? Because my body was abused.


If you love porn, whatever, it's your business and this wasn't meant to attack people who watch it. It only matters towards anyone I would become romantically interested in.
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EchoJellyMutt Featured By Owner 6 days ago
Me and my fiance find porn of ALL kinds cheating(even in video games, movies, and tv.)
Basically if someone watches/looks at porn while in a relationship it is cheating.

I have never met anyone else irl that is like me and him.:/
We get so much grief over it like it is the other persons business or something.>.>

Thank you for this stamp.:3
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Mewtres Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2014  New member
porn is the stupidest thing ever invented.
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illy2002 Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
I feel ya bro
porn is just like abusing someone body ugh!
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MsLittlePets Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
What's wrong with the world.. why can't people just wait untill marriage?
Don't people realize how wrong it is to watch porn or rape people?
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DemonFoxProductions Featured By Owner Aug 17, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
you could have just said that you just don't like porn.. :shrug:
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forester10 Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2014
I feel the same way bro
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Randamu-Chan Featured By Owner Edited Aug 6, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE TELL ME TO DRAW PORNY STUFF!!!!
THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH POSTING THIS!!!!
I FEEL SAFER IN dA, THANKS TO YOUEunhyuk Crazy Smile 
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DefenderofEquikat Featured By Owner Edited Aug 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
you do realize porn helps reduce the chance of rape correct? and release testosterone? so basically what you're saying is that you would rather have females/ males get raped then have a man/woman jerk or finger themselves? oh, it also helps reduce the chance of sexually transmitted disease, so there's that. plus, porn does NOT harm anyone. Pornstars can chose to quit/ start when ever they choose. no one is holding someone to gun point and saying "go suck him off". your logic is quite droopy, hun.

oh, and also!

imagine this; you're at home one night, and you boyfriend walks into the room. you haven't given him sex in 4 weeks, and won't let him watch porn. he decides to rape you. he gets you impregnated by rape all because you didn't let him watch porn and get release. use your mind honey bun.
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IAmNotAPegasus Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Student General Artist
I also forgot to mention sex trafficking and child pornography. People are hurt by the creation of things like this.
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DefenderofEquikat Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
i also forgot to think about those types of pornography, and i apologize. for i am only 13, and am not the smartest in the world. 
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