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I'm such a killjoy, right? by Rebi-Valeska I'm such a killjoy, right? by Rebi-Valeska
I don't receive these "benefits" and "truths" of pornography:

"Porn is fun to watch with your partner and it gives you ideas for sex."
Not to me. I don't want to watch some other girl having sex with someone she probably doesn't even know. I don't even find that even romantic in the slightest. If my boyfriend wanted to watch porn with me, I'd take offense to it because it makes me feel like either I'm getting boring because I don't do what those girls do, or I'm no good at foreplay because he has to rely on porn turn him on. I'm not being selfish, because I know I would do my best to get the best advice for how to treat my boy in bed in a more comfortable way.

"Porn helps people release sexual urges."
I don't care if people masturbate to porn. Unless I'm planning on dating them. Why? Because I don't want him to think that what he sees on porn-movies is what's going to happen in reality. What's more, I've had ex-boyfriends who watched porn and because of that they were more visually stimulated, so they had asked me to send them naked pictures of myself so they have something to jack-off to. I never should have, because it scarred me for LIFE. 

"Porn is art in motion"
I don't see anything artistic about seeing someone stick something in someone's holes. ANYONE can do that. But wait, I already hear people saying "but people DRAW porn, isn't that artistic"? You actually think that the content an artist draws should be labeled as artistic simply because it's drawn? Then we should make murder an artistic thing, since people love to draw that? That sort of logic holds no water for me.

"Porn doesn't harm anyone"
Yes it can, unless you happen to find someone who is into that sort of thing. It's hurts trust and excessive engagement may even hurt people psychologically. Hell, there is a minority of girls/guys who partake into the actual porn production that may experience some trauma of some sort. If there is no mutual and trusting consent, then watching porn will affect your relationships with your girlfriend, your wife and kids, your future lovers, your job, your money, your computer, etc. It can even affect your health: porn has the influence to lead many people into severe sexual addiction per year. It can also rewire your brain to only be stimulated by certain things that common people may not regularly do in intimate settings: therefore restricting the value and variety of intimacy with your spouse/lover. Also, what about the people who used to be in the porn industry/ watched porn but regret it to this day? They may have to live with that feeling of regret for the rest of their lives and they cannot remove the damage such as loosing their day job or the respect of their spouses/family/etc. 
Yes, people CAN watch porn and be bothered by it. It's NOT strange at all since people do not always share the same comfort zones and values about their urges.


I'll tell you what the usage of porn has done for me:
It was the main cause for my step-father to cheat on my mother with a girl MY age & later their seperation. 
It was the main cause for my trust issues with ex-boyfriends. One of them prefered to go to a strip-club than spend time with me.
It made ME feel insecure about my own abilities to please my future love
It has caused me only temporary pleasure and fame, and a life-time amount of guilt
It made me feel used and even guilty whenever I was asked for things I was uncomfortable to give.
It has caused me to have relationship commitment issues.

TLDR: Why do I feel so insecure about porn? Because my body was abused.


If you love porn, whatever, it's your business and this wasn't meant to attack people who watch it. It only matters towards anyone I would become romantically interested in.
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:iconaaronmetallion:
AaronMetallion Featured By Owner 16 hours ago  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think I've found my people. Ive wanted off this planet for too long, but I suppose the beautiful souls are the ones hidden from the world, because they are not of the world. Alas you remember that only dead fish go with the flow, and to be a rebel in today's culturation is to be "moral" and to have "values". I'm tired of seeing promiscuity. I'm tired of seeing people getting into relationships with the question "But is he good in bed?". I wish to see a world that has relationships that are as pure as a child's innocence, and the act of simply holding hands, exchanging a kiss, and existing as two souls together is euphoric in words indescribable. I may not get my wish, but I know somewhere in this mess are souls that feel the same. If you're one of them reading this, I appreciate you more than you know <3.

"Those who are able to see beyond the shadows and lies of their culture will never be understood, let alone believed by the masses." - Plato.
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ProfRaksada Featured By Owner 18 hours ago  Hobbyist Digital Artist
sex iz gud
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AoiDayoZoi Featured By Owner 6 days ago  Hobbyist Writer
I freakin' hate American Pornography and any other type of porn including Hentai. It's just gross…and it's NOT even love in the first place. I'd rather watch horror movies with blood and thrills rather than people having sex, naked.
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NinjaWoodpeckers91 Featured By Owner Jun 16, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Porn disgusted me. :X
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:icontheemptychest:
TheEmptyChest Featured By Owner Jun 14, 2015
Meh, it's not my thing but if other people are into it, fine by me. :shrug:
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:icontheanimefeel:
theanimefeel Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2015
Um, I know this isnt relevant, but whenever i hear killjoy i think of My Chemical Romance. whoops
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:iconbrucebannerfangirl:
BruceBannerFanGirl Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2015  Student General Artist
love how you and everyone here needs to find a reason and easy target for your poor self-esteem  and relationship problems.
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EpicSk8r13 Featured By Owner May 30, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm so fed up with this ridiculous "sexy art"

It has no place on deviantart. Period.
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KuromiAkumura Featured By Owner May 22, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO HATES IT YES!!
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VikingPoneSwordsgirl Featured By Owner May 20, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Meh, I don't care if you dislike porn as long as you don't act like people who enjoy it are seriously twisted or morally depraved or something, the only thing I don't like generally about people who don't support porn is that they sometimes get on a high horse...oh and don't forget erotica. I'm more interested in the latter than the former...there are less likely to be real life consequences than porn because it's an in your head fantasy. Plus, I dunno I like reading :3

Of course you don't have to engage in stuff like naked pics or watching porn with your boyfriend but just remember that it's not always non-con or more of a hesistation on the girl's part. I'm not as shy as my dude so I was actually the first to bring up wanting to go to a nudist beach together or something to that extent. I know you meant this for a particular audience, but I don't know...some girls legitimately want to do this stuff for their boyfriends, and that's ok too as long as the guys aren't doing anything sketch like you mentioned above. It's all about consent, being comfortable, setting the appropriate boundaries for your needs, not being abusive, and all that good stuff...
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BruceBannerFanGirl Featured By Owner Jun 8, 2015  Student General Artist
no because she doesn't like it it must be banned at all cost
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VikingPoneSwordsgirl Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
But really? If you are not being sarcastic...that's needless censorship. Even if you don't like the fact that something exists you could always just ignore it. You don't HAVE to watch it no one is forcing you. Just let other people enjoy.
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BruceBannerFanGirl Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2015  Student General Artist
I am being sarcastic. We artists should ban together agenst ANY kind of senorship in the media.
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:icontultsi93:
tultsi93 Featured By Owner May 16, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Yeah, everytime I'm at kiosk I turn up my nose to porn magazines.
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:iconfouarts:
FouArts Featured By Owner May 9, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh my god...
what it did to you made me sad tbh
*not sarcastic btw*
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HitlerKiller66 Featured By Owner May 1, 2015  Student Digital Artist
I don't lI don't like porn because most of it doesn't fall into my fetish categories.
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the13throse Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
I personally have nothing against those who watch it in moderation, but I am not interested in it at all. I am quite convinced that I am asexual, but I am not aromantic. I can have romantic feelings for people, just not sexual desire.
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tultsi93 Featured By Owner Edited Apr 25, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
I hate porn, too. It's only fare collection with males or females, who's  doing this job, because they don't have better job. I htink that kind of people are exist, too. Everyone can't enjoy something dirty like porn. I like sex if it's NOT the story's main thing but sex IS porn's main thing!
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llazzi Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2015  New Deviant Hobbyist
Porn makes you a weirdo. End of story.
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Dont-H8-M8-Ur-Gr8 Featured By Owner May 23, 2015  New Deviant
Hypocrite, you faved this stamp.
fav.me/d7wlqx8
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:iconllazzi:
llazzi Featured By Owner May 23, 2015  New Deviant Hobbyist
I don't like it. Also, I don't look at it 24/7
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Dont-H8-M8-Ur-Gr8 Featured By Owner May 23, 2015  New Deviant
Who said about you required to not like it? I just said it was hypocritical for you to fave a stamp that supported porn then one that was against it.
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:iconllazzi:
llazzi Featured By Owner May 23, 2015  New Deviant Hobbyist
:^)
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:icondont-h8-m8-ur-gr8:
Dont-H8-M8-Ur-Gr8 Featured By Owner May 23, 2015  New Deviant
Okay then....
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CatImAKittyKat Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2015
Plus,constant sex can screw up your insides.
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:iconllazzi:
llazzi Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2015  New Deviant Hobbyist
:thumbsup:
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CatImAKittyKat Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2015
Yay ^^
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Rainbow-Sunlight Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I DID NOT KNOW THAT
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CatImAKittyKat Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2015
:iconthemoreyouknowplz:
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Iycan Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Like everything in the world, I think too much of a thing is bad. Im sorry to hear what it's done in your life but even if I dont oppose it I do enjoy the fact you gave very tasteful points to why you don't like it. I personally don't watch any porn, seeing people get it on is weird (happens when you grow up with anime sex scenes)
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Darkfall303 Featured By Owner Apr 4, 2015
Porn is evil. But it actually helps people to learn how to have sex.
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Wael-sa Featured By Owner May 15, 2015  Hobbyist
You're right at this! It either encourage you on Adultery (or sex without marriage in the irreligious accent) or breaks you heart like it did with me and some of my friends. God bless you for hating this porn!:) (Smile) 
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:icondarkfall303:
Darkfall303 Featured By Owner May 16, 2015
Exactly that's why I think they should make porn banned. Me too. ): some of my friends became pervs and they always think about girls. I'm on your side.
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:iconwael-sa:
Wael-sa Featured By Owner May 16, 2015  Hobbyist
I'm glad you hate porn the stronger of two evils, God bless you.:D (Big Grin) 
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:icondarkfall303:
Darkfall303 Featured By Owner May 17, 2015
That's right and porn is the symbol of evil. (:
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:iconwael-sa:
Wael-sa Featured By Owner May 17, 2015  Hobbyist
We stay on the limits of family friendly things or lesser evil, miner sins don't equals major sin, somGod may forgive on the lesser evil matter.:) (Smile) 
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Darkfall303 Featured By Owner May 18, 2015
I know. :) If we did something pretty but god will forgive no matter what but porn is giving everyone huge sins for this.
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:iconwael-sa:
Wael-sa Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist
Yeah.:| (Blank Stare) 
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:iconiycan:
Iycan Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Wow that's exactly the same thing I've heard about/thought about from every virgin ever. Minus the evil part. Also porn is techically sex but you dont approve of one over the other lol okkkk
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NatReksio Featured By Owner Apr 7, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Lmao no, I didn't learn anything from porn, how did you get this ridiculous idea?
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Darkfall303 Featured By Owner Apr 9, 2015
Some people I know don't go to sex ed and they don't understand how to have sex.
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:iconnatreksio:
NatReksio Featured By Owner Apr 9, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I didn't learn sex in sex ed either, I only learned things about the phallus.
I learned how to have sex from actually having sex, porn gives people false expectations of what sex is like.
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Darkfall303 Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2015
Well what's sex ed for then? There has to be a reason you know.
I got a question are you married? What's porn for then? Prevs who has no life? 
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NatReksio Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Sex Ed taught me about how the penis works and what happens during straight sex, not really helpful for anyone.

And no, I'm not married and don't plan to get married any time soon.
Porn is for people that enjoy/get off on watching others having sex, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Porn isn't meant to be some kind of educational piece of media, I never thought I'd have to explain that.
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Darkfall303 Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2015
Well government shouldn't allow sex ed if it doesn't help people then.

So who did you have sex? Like boy friend or some random guy? But you know if you get pregnant your married now or if your lesbian then that explains it.
You mean those bunch of those perves with no life? I think porn is evil and they should be removed.
A lot of people told me that but I don't trust you if you explain or tell me.
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NightcoreandPewds Featured By Owner Apr 3, 2015
Porn's a waste of time. It's disgusting and I have never watched it. Quite frankly, I probably never will.
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loriLUNACY Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It makes me happy when I find people like you. May I add that it's very rare. I agree with everything you have said in your artist comment and it has actually comforted me, this kind of thing really gets to me sometimes, sexism gets me down. It's nice to see that there are still people out there who are still human. Thank you for this.

I can't wait for the day that we have total and complete equality. Down with the porn and sexism. Women should not be sexualised like they are, it's just disgusting. 
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AaronMetallion Featured By Owner Edited 16 hours ago  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think I've found my people. Ive wanted off this planet for too long, but I suppose the beautiful souls are the ones hidden from the world, because they are not of the world. Alas you remember that only dead fish go with the flow, and to be a rebel in today's culturation is to be "moral" and to have "values". I'm tired of seeing promiscuity. I'm tired of seeing people getting into relationships with the question "But is he good in bed?". I wish to see a world that has relationships that are as pure as a child's innocence, and the act of simply holding hands, exchanging a kiss, and existing as two souls together is euphoric in words indescribable. I may not get my wish, but I know somewhere in this mess are souls that feel the same. I'm happy to find people like you here. <3.

"Those who are able to see beyond the shadows and lies of their culture will never be understood, let alone believed by the masses." - Plato.
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:iconwael-sa:
Wael-sa Featured By Owner May 15, 2015  Hobbyist
God bless you! I hate porn too!:D (Big Grin) 
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